My mom has kidney failure. She works in healthcare so she encounters patients with this same condition. She is diabetic, has high blood pressure and is overweight. She doesn't exercise or eat healthy.
My dad was willing to donate his kidney but he's not compatible. I am a healthy young girl and know I would be a better match since I am related to her (same genetics). I am so angry with her that she could have prevented this situation. If she controlled her diabetes, ate a better diet and exercised, then she wouldn't be in this situation. Am I wrong to say that she could have prevented this?
I don't want to donate my kidney because what if I have a health problem in the future. I heard that if you want kids, then you need both kidneys..is that true?
I know she is my mom but I am so scared and can't even take getting my blood drawn. How can I physically/emotionally handle going under sugery and having one less organ as the outcome? Am
I being selfish?
My older sister is going to be worked up and see if she if compatible donor. She is not as physically healthy as me. She has gain weight over the pass years and doesn't exercise as well. What if she is not compatible. I will have to decide if I want to have childs or donate my organ to my mom. This decision is very stressful for me. Help me out.
I know I will forever regret it if something happens to her and it was because she had to wait on a waiting list. My 'friend' said my dad really must love my mom since he volunteer to donate his kidney so I don't love my mom?!? Am I a bad daughter? Please advice me what to do?
Answer on I'm scared to donate my organ to my relative...any info on this situation that can help me?
An unhealthy person like your mom could probably live an extra 5 years with a donated kidney so hopefully your older sister will be a compatible donor. If not, perhaps you could then let yourself be tested to see if you are compatible and if you are also an incompatible donor then you don't have to make the decision whether to donate or not. If you turn out to be compatible you could then request some time to make a decision (like a few weeks perhaps) and do all the relevant research, including discussions with doctors or hospital staff and other relevant people, before you make a decision.
Besides you and your sister if your mom has any brothers or sisters perhaps they might be compatible and perhaps they should be tested before you are tested as you are perhaps too young to donate a kidney with most of your life still ahead of you whereas an aunt or uncle (sister or brother of your mom) are probably halfway through their lives.
